kaise ek ladki apni shadi ki tayri karti hai
Kaise ek ladki apni shadi ki tyari kar sakti hi?
shadi hai kya ,ye bat suru karne se pehele ye jante hi ki s
shadi hai kya?aur Kyo ladki ko iski tyari karni padti hi . shadi ek aise rasam hi jisme ek ladki ek ladke ko apna jeevansathi banati hi aur ladka ladki ko apna jeevansathi banata hi , umara bhar sath nibhnae ki kasme vade hote hi,sukh dukh me ek dusre ka sath nibana hota hi , ya fir aise kahe to jeevan bhar ke sache dost hote hi , koe bhi sath na de lekin pati patni ko ek dusre ka stha dena hota hai. Dono ek dusre ke purak hote hi.iss rasam riwaj me ladki ko ladke ke ghar jana padta hi, wahi per rehna rehta hota hi ,usi ghar ko apna ghar bolna hota hi.
shadi ki rasam me jab do log shadi ho jati hi to vo aapas me pati- patni ho jate hi .jab ladki patni banti hi to use pati ke ghar jana hota hai ,whi jakar apna sansar basana hota hi ,aur apne pita ka ghar yani peehar ka ghar chodkar apne pati ke ghar yani apne sasural ko apna ghar banana hota hi yhi ye rasam riwaj hai jo hamesa se hota aaya hi .islea ladki ko har prakar se tyaar hona padta hi. Ab is bat o samagne ke bad ye jane hi ki kine prakar ki tyari lagti hi.
sabse pehele to mansik roop se tayar hona chaiea kisi bhi naye parivartan ke lea ,apna man buddhi kisi bhi badlav ko svikar karta hai to jeevan me jada jughna nhi padta hai.
Tayriya bhi to kae prakarkar ki hoti hi ,jaise ki saririk tyari( psychical prepration) .shadi ke lea ladki aur ladka donao ka balik hona jarurri hota hi.
tayrio ki kadi me ye tayari bhi bhut mahatva rakti hi vo hi Bhavnatamak tayri ,jab koe kisi se bhawnatmak star se juda hota hi to life me bhut payar sa bandhan badh jata hai.
Rachnatamak tyari bhi hoti hi to sone per shuga jaise hota hai.
Aarthik tyari bhi bhi bhut hii maene rakti hi , ek to apne pairo per khada hona hi bhut gaurav ki bat hi.
Sarririk tyari me ladki ka 18 varsha hona chiea .Bharat ke kanun me 18 varsh kam se kam ladki ki awasya hona chaiea aur ladke ka kam se kam 21 hona chaiea.Is umra tak ladki ka saririk vikas ho jata hi ,vo mature ho jati hai .Pratek manusya ka ki psycial need hoti hi sex , aur india me shadi ke bad hi psycial relation banane ki aagya samaz ki traf se milti hi ,iske lea sarir aur man dono ki tyar hona chaiea to hi ek savathya rista kayam hota hi.jab ek rista husban wur wife me hota hi jeevan sundar lagta hi, jeeva me wk aananad hota hi aur man bhi prasanan rehta hi.
Mansik tayri kise kehte hi ye samgne ki kosis karte hi ,mansik tyari use kehte jisme” apna dimak aur man vo kam karene ki permission de” .jab apna kisi bhi chij ke lea dimak aur man dono raji hote hi to jeevan me madurata aati hi.isme apna jehan aage se hi parisithi ka samna karne ke lea tayar rehta hi , jab hum pehel kisi chij ki tyari kar lerte hi to kam asani se ho jata hai jaise hum exam dene se pehele padaee kar ke jate hi to paper ache se solve kar pate hi tik aise hi ye jeengi ka paper hi isme bhi tyiri chaiea.
ladkia bhut hi bhavnatamak hoti hi ladko ki apecha. ye achi bat hi lekin hamesa bhavnatmak hona acha nhi hi ,isme bhi santulan hona chaiea, nhi to khud hi log apna nuksan kar lete hi.riste to payar ke dhago se hi badhta hi,aur ye dor bhut hi najuk hoti hi islea bhut hi savadhani risto ko nibhana aana chiea , dil to bhut naguk hota hi use kon si bat ya act ka bura lag jae (ttes) lag jae pta hi nhi chalta islea sabko man ka bhi khyal bhi rakna padta hi. ladki ko ab apne sasura jana hota hi ,to uske lea ye bhi jaruri hota hi i jtne din hi abhi peehar me ,to usko apne Mata _pita ke sath acha smaya nikalna chaiea ,apne bhai -behno kea sath mil ghul kar rehna chiea ,unse bate karni chaiea ,use apna rista mazboot bnakar jana chiea ,apne parivar walo ke sath quality time bitna chaiea .Aapko apni personality improve karni chaiea ,bat bat me rutna ,gussakarn ye sab ab ab nhi karna chaiea ,ab aapko paripakwta dikani chiea .kisi bhi bat jabab dene se pehele ache se sun lena chaiea .sunane ki kala vikisit karni chaiea .
Rachnatamak tyari vo tyari hoti hi hi jisme ab ladkiyo ko ghar ko ache se arrenege karne aana chiea, cooking bhi aana chaiea, kha jata hi ki “pati ke dil ka rasta pet se hokar gujarta hi” ,. Ghar ke chote mote kam bhi aane chiea ,nhi jada nhi aata to koe bat nhi basic to aana hi chaiea . Agar nhi aata to kuch bhi nhi sab kuch sika ja sakta hi ghar ka kam bhi sik legi ladkiya .kha bhi jata hi ki “Jha chah wha raha” ladkiyo ko apne vesh-bhusa per bhi dhyan dena chaiea ,unper kaise kape ache lagte hi uske aadhar per hi shopping karna chaiea.
Agar koe kam humko atta hi ,ya uska gyan hota hi humko aage badne me madad milti hi aur apna apne uper viswas bhi badta hi , ye viswas aur gyan humko sukhi vewahik jeevan bitane me saflta milti hi. Islea ldkiyo ko mansik ,saririk, aarthik ,bhawanatamak aur rachnatmak tyari hota hi to to riste per sakaratmak prabhav padta hi.
Aasa karti hu ki mera ye lek maer payre pathako ko pasand aaeaur aap logo kuch madad mil